Zia, I thought about that, but honestly, I am so not motivated to send them anything. They've never acknowledged my birthday or anniversary. Why should I pretend to care about theirs? As my husband says, these folks are from the shallow end of the gene pool.

Apple, she is a basically okay girl, albeit a bit thoughtless. As I've said, she's had such a horrible example all her life, I'm amazed that she's as decent as she is, as if she were raised by wolves and somehow turned out okay. My mother-in-law did speak to her and tried to explain that it was ill-mannered, and she just didn't get it. She said that she had been advised by the pastor of her church and his wife, who thought it was just fine. Perhaps they're just used to asking for donations.