This brings me to another silent moment right before the sewing machine scene, and which precedes it is a way that makes both scenes part of the narrative. Of course I am talking about the scene where Michael comes to the front door and sees Anthony's little car sitting there in the snow abandoned. By the look on his face Michael knows his son has seen through this little charade, and the following scene with Kay's back to him really drives it home.
Exactly! Michael probably was blaming himself for Kay's loss of the baby. Thinking that he imedeatly left her right after the hit attempt and was not there by her side, helping her cope with the stress. Remember that at this point Michael was under the impression that Kay had 'lost" the baby. Then he sees that Anthony's present from him was uncaringly left in the snow. Michael probably realized that the present that he had Tom buy on his behalf did not replace the fact that Michael was not there for Anthony after the hit attempt. That his father was not there to share in his joy when opening that present. And that is why he proceeded to go to Mama for his little talk about losing family.
Hence losing his family while trying to save The Family.
