Welcome to the boards. Remember there are no stupid questions here, and there is a wealth of information available. Many things you may be thinking about have been widely discussed on other threads and the membership here is always glad to steer you to them.
I echo the sentiments of our very esteemed and respected member dontomasso. There are NO stupid questions here. Ask away!
As for new members not being allowed to disagree with the elders of the board, times have changed. After all, we are not communists.
Just don't ever take sides against the family.

Welcome to the boards!