My dear friend, How very, very sad for all of you. And what a horrible shock! As you said, it is every parent's nightmare to bury a child. I am so sorry to hear of your loss, and I wish there was some magic wand I could wave that would help.

I know how much your family means to you. As you try to be strong for them, remember to keep your children close to you. They will bring you enormous comfort in the days and months ahead. Give them a squeeze every now and then and remember how very fleeting life is.

Cherish every day and never pass by the opportunity to tell someone you love them. Paul sounds like he was a dedicated, loving and brilliant man. You were blessed to have him for the time you did.

Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts.