Ye GADs, man!! Don't you see, she WANTS you to have a part in the whole planning process!! Logical as Italian Stallionette is, the last thing your fiance wants is to have you say, 'whatever you say'...because then she will complain to her family & friends that "He's not getting involved at all, he shows no interest in any aspect of this wedding!!

This may take a bit of a toll on you, but have you considered asking her to point out what the heck is the difference between all those 'shapes'?? Then at least give her your opinion, even though she will challenge it and go with her own anyway. Do the same with regard to the food, the invitations, the favors, etc. I've never planned a wedding of my own, and do not anticipate doing so. But I've known many a woman who has and about 90% of them are the same. It's supposed to be the biggest day of their lives, they want it to be just right and unless they COMPLETELY mistrust the man's taste and judgement, they want him to show a bit of an interest in the detail.

In short...humor her.

And by the way, you can tell her that the combination of chocolate and yellow cake is just fine, I have seen it done before. For one thing, it looks interesting when sliced. For another thing, it will please those guests who prefer either one or the other. For yet another thing, by the time the cake is cut into thin slivers and served, very few really care because the reception is almost over, the more fun thing is seeing it whole, and ooohing and aaahing over the beauty of it.

Looking forward to more....

Apple