GuineaPig, I have been telling him ever since we started dating that he shouldn't listen to her. She is a VERY bad mother. She tells her daughter Sarah that she is fat( you should see the mother). You just don't do that to your kids. I keep telling Serg that he is very smart(which he is), funny,talented,etc and that he could do so much. My family has offered SO many times to let him live with us. He says that he wants to but he would be afraid to make his mom sad. I think he feels like he has an obligation to her. Every time he gets paid from his job she takes his money to buy her stupid girlfriend presents. She is a freakin' nurse. I know she has her own freakin' money. He always says that she will pay him back but she hasn't, so right about now she owes him over $300. I think she has emotionally beaten him down to the point that he has no self-worth. He seems to only have self-esteem when I'm around. Gosh, it just brings me to tears.